Many of us should have watched the Real Housewives combination of programmes or seen the press and magazine coverage of these antics and lifestyles. The stories of those ‘real housewives’ and WAGs may fill us using a mixture of horror, envy and disdain once we view their reported choices and excessive ways, particularly as they’re often known as role models for kids. We may speculate that their more outrageous behaviour is finished to maintain public attention and help reinforce their celebrity status.
But when we dig somewhat below the top, behind the glamour and glitz, you can see that real housewives their very own own concerns, worries and issues. Indeed, some reside out personal crises, making life-changing decisions as well as using their time on the show to lift their public profile and gain exposure for own existing businesses.
Oftentimes ‘Real Housewives’ can look detached from reality and normality, residing in a continual flurry of visits to expensive shops, restaurants and sweetness salons. Maintaining this kind of high-profile lifestyle involves a lot of pressure to maintain up appearances and also be seen to get living the fairytale existence. Being photographed partying, drinking cocktails, maybe spending their husband or partner’s profit a whimsical self-indulgent flurry of activity, bickering over trivia, appearing to sulk when they are not treated to appropriate gifts or get what they desire can make them appear spoilt, selfish and childish.
We’ve little doubt noticed in magazines and so on social media what percentage of the younger WAGs and Real Housewives manage to look a similar, morphing into 1 another with identi-kit hairstyles, dress styles, breast sizes, sporting smooth, wrinkle-free faces and pouting lips. Often the first is indistinguishable from another in the group photograph. This may be their intention, providing reassurance that they are doing it right, pursuing the right guidelines to get part of this elite, exclusive group, comparable to young children who require to wear exactly the same brands in order that they feel they belong.
But these choices can often mean insecurity about owning an individual appearance and identity. If they looked or acted differently what might be the consequences, would they be okay, adequate? They may are now living in constant dread of these appearance changing, of putting on just a little weight, of choosing a grey hair or even the tiniest wrinkle. How could someone find the time to retain their personality and identity whilst still maintaining constant surveillance over every aspect in their image. Being the ideal wife, mother, woman means never really relaxing or letting go of control, otherwise things may slip and another person may be there, willing to step into their shoes.
Whenever we elect to judge another person it’s inevitably done from the own perspective, however when we experience tough times, difficult emotions and pain it’s really a very personal, relative experience. If we dismiss or belittle somebody else’s problems, efforts or situation because of these apparent good luck, attractive appearance, wealth, status or perceived lucky breaks we’re doing them and ourselves a disservice. Few of us are extremely secure and confident in ourselves and our self-belief, possibly even emotionally resilient that any of us remain unaffected by the hardships life sometimes throws our way. Deep down many of us need love, kindness and acceptance; we crave reassurance we’re okay.
As a Real Housewife there’s continual pressure to appear the part rather than age. Maintaining this must become onerous, tedious and exhausting occasionally. Every aspect of the life, their wardrobe, personal fitness sessions and treatments can fill daily, becoming almost a fulltime job. Often all others has an opinion, wishes to give their advice, join the team, so presenting a magazine/Stepford wife persona, living the dream.
Every usually a Real Housewife sometimes appears to step out from the lure of fame by leaving the limelight behind, or they decide on it for their advantage and create a charitable or business initiative, develop a product, write a magazine, use their position as being a force permanently. You will then see her transition and be more than her public persona. In making her character in the show she’ll reclaim her name, establish her identity and turn into recognised on her behalf talents and attributes in their own right, not part of the brand!.
Susan Leigh, counsellor, hypnotherapist, relationship counsellor, writer & media contributor offers benefit relationship issues, stress management, assertiveness and confidence. She blends with individual clients, couples and supplies corporate workshops and support.
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